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!! 記低d好味好看嘅餸菜, 下次食葡國菜時叫先得!! 
做左大約一個多月嘅Brazilian Jujitsu (BJJ), 由最開頭每次做完對腳, 會由星期一晚開始酸痛到星期四, 到依家開始習慣多在, 而且好似痛少左, 終於有少少進步喇 
今個星期, 我仲挑戰自己, 由每個星期去一日 (星期一晚), 加到去兩日 (再去埋星期三)。但去多日嘅結果係, 我每次返到屋企都倦到扒係度, 好眼瞓添...直到想即刻上牀瞓呀!!!
我覺得玩BJJ最變態嘅地方係: 佢地唔開冷氣呀!! 真係熱到我痴孖根呀! 我一個鐘頭之內流汗流到係滴晒水, 我見在場每位仁兄都如此, 我曾經問過instructor可唔可以開冷氣, 因為我熱到就黎焗死咁滯 (事關個gym裡係冇窗架!!), 點知當然係唔開啦。有一次我打左好多個前同後關斗後, 暈暈地仲有d想嘔, instructor見到走左入洗手間一輪, 我出來之後, 佢就問我: "Anita, are you ok?", 我話 :"No, I'm not ok. I feel so dizzy and I wanna throw up becoz there's not enough fresh air here.". 終於佢就開左冷氣, 但那時距離完堂只有大約15分鐘, 我都就黎虛脫啦!!
雖然有d辛苦, 仲曾經諗過自己頂唔頂得順, 應該唔應該放棄呢, 但最後我都決定盡量去試, 繼續去練。BJJ係一種好好鍛煉自我、毅力嘅運動, 除左流一身大汗有益身體之外, 我仲可以藉呢個時間暫時忘記煩惱, 減壓, 幾好!!
下面呢個technique就係我尋晚學, 我瞓響地同對手, 左面同埋各做左10次之外, 仲要掉轉, 被我對手扭番轉頭!! 倦到嘔!!
Ok, let me try to describe it again in English...
I have done Brazilian Jujitsu (BJJ) for more than a month now. From the beginning when my legs would be totally sore for four days (from Monday night after the training to usually Thursday) after the class, to now that I have got more used to the exercise and I have less muscular pain each time afterwards. I think there's at least some improvement
This week I have been challenging myself, becoz I am trying to do BJJ from once a week (Monday night only) to twice a week (adding Wednesday night) as well. The result of going to BJJ twice a week is -- I'm dead tired after the exercise and the first thing I wanna do is -- to go straight to bed when I got home!!! 
I think the most horrible thing from doing BJJ at my gym is that they DON'T switch on the air-conditioner!!! I'm dead hot each time doing BJJ there. My sweat simply stream over my face, over the body! Each one of the us is the same, without exception. Once I asked the instructor if he could switch on the air-conditioner becoz it's really damn hot but he said, "No."
Once I felt really bad after doing some forward and backward sommersaults, and I had to calm down myself in the toilet. When I came out of the toilet, my instructor asked if I was fine, and I said, "No, I'm not ok. I feel dizzy and I wanna throw up becoz there's not enough fresh air here." Finally, he agreed to switch on the air-con, but there's only 15 mins left before the class was dismissed. [How come all the others are so strong and they're so energetic EXCEPT me?]
It's hard and tough doing BJJ and honestly I have thought about giving it up before, but no, I try not to. I want to be more persistent, and not easily giving up things. After all, this is a really good sport and it trains me to be tough and strong. Besides sweating mad which is good for my health, it also allows me the time to throw away worries and unhappiness and concentrate myself into doing something. Well, it teaches me some good self-defense skills too (although I always say that when a woman is confronted by a man, the best strategy is to scream and run away as quickly as possible becoz we shall never think we can beat a man. It's physically very hard to do so).
Below is a video clip that demonstrates one of the techniques that I learned last night in class. I laid down and did 10 times from the left, 10 times from the right; and then my partner and I switched position and did once again. Damn tired but good fun.
? 就係成日聽住我個mp3, 跟住隻CD係咁練講, 拿住幾份notes係咁練寸字, 睇grammar。 上一排我寫左一篇blog entry關於學習葡萄牙語, 係講我開始學習葡萄牙語。上篇blog那隻CD, 裡頭嘅10課書我已經聽晒學晒 (我認真的, 我想每個chapter我起碼聽左20-30次, 然後之後每隔1個星期再重聽一次)。
!! 我唔可以再半途而廢, 讀讀下又唔讀。經過以前失敗嘅經驗之後, 依家我改良我嘅學習策略 ------ 就係一定要讀完一本書 (聽晒全本書嘅所有內容嘅CD), 熟晒先再去睇第二set materials。當中真係要有非常強大嘅堅持、忍耐同埋耐性 (我練緊...)。
!! , 不過對我就幾work啦!!!
!!! Forca, forca!!!! 
雖然由細讀英文讀到大, 但因為英文唔係第一語言;
雖然工作環境以英文為主, 但香港始終係廣東話天地, 要學好英文都只有靠多睇、多聽、多用, 先發覺有乜唔識, 然後去查同埋嘗試找尋答案。
近日讀報閱到一個專欄, 係古德明先生嘅 "古德明 - 征服英語", 閱後就更加發覺自己英文好差, 因為竟然唔知道以下一句話嘅真正意思......
"It has been four years since I smoked."
我初頭會以為大約意思會係, "我從開始吸煙計, 已經四年了。", 點知根據古先生解釋, 原來真正意思應該係: 我至今有四年沒吸煙了。"!
咁呢句呢?----- "It has been ten years since they married."呢? 這句大概比較容易解釋, 大約意思係 "他們結婚至今有十年了。"
我都睇到好混亂, 咁即係點呢? 兩句都係用present perfect tense, 正路我估都係話一個從某時開始嘅動作, 直到講嘅一刻, 都仍然有做緊的。點解第一句嘅意思係咁嘅???
根據古先生所解釋, married, smoked呢兩個動作, 都係指已成過去嘅短時間行為: smoked係四年前嘅事; 其後四年都已經沒有再吸煙了。至於married, 係 "辦手續結為夫婦", 是十年前嘅事了, 其後十年沒有再辦結婚手續, 不過, 結婚嘅狀態呢當然係繼續下去嘅。
古先生再舉例話, 如 "It has been three years since he died.", 意係: 他去世至今三個月了。他三個月前去世, 其後三個月他沒有再死一次, 但死亡嘅狀態並冇改變。
咁如果想話 : "他們離婚至今有十年了" 要點講呢? 係: It has been ten years since they dirvorced.
英文 - 話易唔易, 我真係要睇多d書, 閱讀多d, 進修改善多d先得喇......多謝古德明先生呢篇精采嘅文章, 我有收起來保存。
近日有朋友被公司迫走, 老闆嘅說話真係令人失望...語言嘅力量從來都不可睇少。
唔知大家有冇遇過一d人, 出親口講野都好尖銳, 攪到你直頭冇興趣同佢講野呢? 唔係話佢講嘅野全無道理, 而係, 講嘅時候究竟有冇諗下聽者在那一刻, 其實有乜感受呢? 說話有意思有內容當然好, 但無說話技巧, 又唔諗清楚當時環境情況係咪適合講呢種說話, 有可能只會令聽嘅人加倍傷心 (但仲以為自己好啱)。
如果你係聽者, 當你聽到以下說話, 唔知你有乜感受呢?
1) 在一個舊同學嘅晚飯聚會中, 大約有12位朋友, 全部坐埋一張大圓枱, 一齊食中餐晚飯。大家都大半年/一年冇見, 大家都好開心講下自己野, 又問下對方近來點呀, 每人都傾得好開心的。註: 聯絡所有舊同學出席呢個gathering嘅人係本人。好喇, 吃飯到尾聲, 大家繼續傾下計, 突然間, 本人隔離的一位男仔 (叫佢做A君啦), 向著大圓枱對面的一位舊同學 (尊稱佢B君), 話佢肥左好多, 叫佢唔好攪到越來越肥得架, 叫人好心快d減下肥, 係咁發表偉論一輪!! Shit, 一個男人向著另一個男人, 當住咁多人面前咁樣同人講野, 如果你係那個被人叫減肥的人, 請問你有乜感覺呢? 又請問如果你係我 (那個攪活動的人), 你又有乜感覺呢? 請問: 你覺得人地肥左, 可能真係冇咁健康, 但有冇需要向住咁多人面前講呢?
2) 有一次, 本人在工作上無情情被一個賤客在電話裡鬧左一餐, 仲叫我以後唔好再打來! 聽完佢個電話, 我極之唔開心, 喊鬼左出來。之後我同上邊那位男子A講, 你估呢個人點回應呢? A: "你個阿頭係你個friend, 佢又唔鬧人, 一齊成日咁懶, 工作又冇乜壓力....你做得出面嘅工少囉, 出邊人人都係咁架啦, 你見得少人啫....又唔受得人鬧.....你都做唔到我間公司那種環境啦, 人人都係咁, 你肯定受唔到氣, 幾日就唔做喇。" #$@#$%$^$%^, 真係想鬧衰佢!!! 聽佢講野仲受氣過乜呀!! 你本來想搵個人傾訴一下, 點知不但半句安慰說話都冇, 仲鬧得勁過個客! 就算呢個人講嘅野係事實, 在呢種人地情緒咁低落嘅時刻, 竟然講d咁嘅說話??!! 你問一問想跳樓自殺嘅人, 如果一位談判專家咁對佢講野, 你估那個人會唔會即刻跳樓死左佢好過??!!!
**** 好彩我冇再有呢種人做bf, 甚至 friend...... 冇左一個咁嘅人在身邊, 皮質醇都低番晒, 冇咁易精神衰弱或者患上噪狂症....
一個人嘅開心、快樂、悲哀、失落, 實在同人嘅說話好有關係。給予別人多一點鼓舞嘅說話, 一齊探討問題原因同埋講下解決嘅方法很好, 比起教訓有意思得多呢。
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Ok, let me try to repeat what I have said above in English...
A good friend of mine was recently forced to leave her company. The words that her boss said to her were really disappointing. That reminds me once again the super power of words.
We can never underestimate how powerful words are and the possible tremendous damaging effects that they can cause to the listeners, no matter how useful and meaningful you think those words could be to the listeners.
I'm not sure if you have been so lucky as to have met people who often say words without carefully considering the situation and the effects on others. There are some people who always like to give comments so sharp and sensational that I don't want to talk to them at all. I mean - their words could be full of meanings and good for the listeners, but these people lack or simply have no skills in speaking. They don't realize (or probably they don't even care too much) about speaking skills and techniques. Plus, they never consider the real situations.
If you were the listener, how would you feel about it when you were said the following things?
1) In a gathering dinner at a Chinese restaurant organized by me, all the old classmates (about 12 of them altogether) sat together at a big round table. Everyone was happily chatting with each other, updating their news and sharing things. Afterall, we hadn't met for almost a year and everyone was excited to see each other again. Towards the end of the gathering, the guy (let's called him "A") who was sitting next to me talked across to another guy (called him "B") who was sitting right opposite at the big table. Guess what A said to B in front of all the people at the big table? A: "Wow B, you have got so fat now! You seem to be getting fatter and fatter! You really have to start losing weights quickly!" Shit! What the hell is this A doing? He must be mad. And imagine how I would feel as well (as I was the organizer of this function)?
2) Once I was scolded on the phone by a client at work (for some very minor issues). The guy on the phone told me never to phone him again. After the phone call, I was really depressed and I wept. I told this story to this friend A (the same person as in the Number One issue above). Guess what he said in response? Excellent! He said, "Your supervisor is your friend and he nevers scolds at you. You both are very lazy at work and you don't have much pressure from work!..... You haven't worked much in other companies and you don't know what's outside in this world...) bla bla bla.. and then continued, "Most people in this working world is like this. You haven't met many people in this world and you can't take blames from others.... you won't be able to work in a company like mine - everyone is like this, you surely can't take any blame. I'm sure you would quit the job after working for a few days if you were working in my company.....". Sorry excuse me but at the time when he said this to me, I really wanted to tell him to fuxk off! When I was very depressed and I thought I wanted to share my sad feelings with someone but I was treated this way, what else could I say? Not a single word of consolation but full of "teachings" and indifferent words. Imagine a person was so upset and was trying to jump off a building to end his/her life, a negotiator came. Instead of trying to make the person give up the attempt of killing himself/herself, the negotiator kept saying how stupid this person was and so on.... I bet the person would rather jump off the building immediately because he/she had enough bullshit from this negotiator.
**** How lucky that I no longer have such kinda person as a bf or even a friend...... My cortisol is back to a normal level and I'm free of any psychological stress and depression....
Seriously, the joy & happiness, and the sadness and depression of a person is closely related with the words he or she receives from others. I think it's always much nicer to give others more encouraging words. You may help analyse the case with your friends and what can be done better, but try avoid using harsh words because it might only make the situation even worse.
), 因為我好少在香港可以見到有書會介紹葡萄牙美食 (介紹意大利、法國美食就大把
), 同埋以為本書會有番咁上下大本 (因為在網上見到時佢地影到好大本的), 同埋價錢都唔便宜囉.....). I rarely see books which talks about Portuguese food (at least written in English and sold in HK) so when I saw it on the internet, I immediately wanted to buy it. Initially, I thought this book would be a rather big one (I was given this false impression by the website), plus this book is NOT inexpensive!! 
